Let Your Compassion Grow As You Let Your Disappointment Go!

(Editor's Note: One of the executives mentored by Linda Chandler wrote her about the disappointment of failing to convince a close associate of electing to attend a CoreValue Training classes. The following letter about meeting disappointments in daily life and business is what Linda wrote in response.)

Please know that this is a Golden Opportunity to address this issue of disappointment, learning to let go of it, and in the process, gain even more compassion, for ourselves and others living this human experience, in a much broader scale.

Such disappointments... we all encounter in this world on a regular basis. And oh boy! do I have lots to say about that... but I promise to keep this relatively short.

First of all, let me say I can FEEL and KNOW the disappointment you are feeling, especially if these are people you know and care about. So I feel the sadness of disappointment, the frustration of them "not getting it" and the weight of the negative energy that this leaves as its residue.

SOOOOOOOOO... what I want you to do is next... close your eyes and take three DEEP BREATHS first... YES... for REAL... right NOW... at least 3... breathe in direct into you body, mind and spirit: STRENGTH, CONFIDENCE, LOVE.

My next question to you is WHAT COLORS showed up when you closed your eyes and breathed in these essential feelings???

OK. Now with renewed vigor and strength let's continue on our path here.

The lesson: In brief, let me just share this with you... all of my life I have encountered people who "cannot afford" something, or someone, or making a choice of something that is as clear as crystal to me that would be wonderful and open new doors for them. Whatever that may be. From, as in this case, a training and an opening to connect with some truly amazing and wonderful information, clarity, understanding, and people... all the way to investments and better utilization of money. So here is what I have learned.

When people believe they cannot afford, their scarcity mentality is so strong that it takes a virtual blast of dynamite to move them from their foxhole (you do know what a foxhole is?) A foxhole is a trench a soldier digs in the ground to hide and protect himself from explosions of bombs, bullets and rockets fired by unfriendly forces.

In that foxhole... if the stick of dynamite never comes... for it is not going to be manufactured by them sitting there in the foxhole... they will NEVER leave that foxhole, but will die there. These beautiful people (see... here then is the Compassion coming to light and growing) are being run by their own preprogramming, old beliefs and values that are shutting them down, not opening them up to change.

And they most often stay adamant in their belief that their foxhole is the best they can and will ever have (their FEAR is in control of them). As a result of being immobilized by their false barriers and attachment to what they perceive as the little they have in a world of scarcity, they are unwilling to climb out to venture into new terrain where they do not "know" what it will be like.

They prefer to stay put in the dark, dank environment they do not like but is all they know for sure.

In ESSENCE, they have not yet reached the level of Courage... for it is this level of Courage that is the first step of empowering themselves. And REMEMBER through this whole dialogue here... THEY is WE too!!!

Only when we have and EXpress our Courage... and take the step into the unknown that we can and do even begin to see new colors, new possibilities, new resources, and whole new landscapes and meet new people who are more and more the ones we will travel with to new horizons.

So... reach out your hand... offer to be with them on the journey. Coax them out of the darkness. But if they refuse so strongly and their own strength pulls you back into that darkness (know too, they also fear to be alone there and would rather pull you back into the foxhole to be their companion, rather than join you on your journey into the unknown terrain) ... let go of their hand, wish them well, and move on.

For those who have even a shred of courage in their souls will see the hand extended for what it truly is... the hand of light and hope... bringing them into a world of greater light!

So here again today... is MY hand extended to YOU. Together we are crossing the fields of darkness, walking not always on land we recognize or know from our past experience, ready to encounter the NEW with anticipation born of hope, belief, passion, purpose, love and willingness. And we are gathering the courageous, the strong, the weak, the meek, the bold... all who are ready and willing to step out of those foxholes and UP to a better life and world!

So... that my dear and wonderful Friend is my special message to YOU right now.